Re: Australian Hotel Tipping [warning long post]
Firstly, ever since I saw this thread title, I knew we were going to have another patented "pro-tipping or anti-tipping" polar debate (i.e. both on the personal and social level). That aside...
I'd really hate to see an expectation of tipping be introduced to Australia, regardless of service level received, like there is in other countries.
I agree.
Tipping to me, personally, should be viewed as a
reward, not an
expectation (even if the latter can be "varied" from 10-20%, or even 0%); and it should be viewed as a
bonus, not a
stipulation. It is like going to the dentist and being a good little boy / girl in the chair, then you get something from the dentist. The dentist doesn't
have to give you something for being good, but they might (you don't expect one). In any case, you're not going to get one if you don't behave (you're not going to get a gift for being bad, not even a
better gift for being good).
In several countries where tipping is expected, I respect the social norms of that country as that is the courteous thing to do. They may not match your morals or standards, but there is little point in being a social standout or being oppressive in other cultures (the definition, by and large, of the "bad tourist"). Just like when you go to a Muslim country, you should respect the locals and dress conservatively, and avoid public displays of affection.
In line with this, it should be noted that tipping is not expected everywhere and tipping can also be viewed as disrespectful. Japan is one such example of the latter (a tip is an insult to a person offering a service because it may be construed as a bribe or an indication that their effort is not good enough).
Occasionally, I receive really good service and would like to show my appreciation by way of a remunerated reward, but I'm not sure how you go about this. The case in point for me, was Friday at the Sydney Hilton. The check-in manager (Tony) rated as one of the best I've experienced. He went well beyond my expectations (which can sometimes be high to start with). Of course feedback to the hotel goes without saying, but I would have liked to offer a tip....but how is this done? No cash changes hand these days, it's all cards and is a tip seen as an insult to someone who takes pride in their job? Same goes for the porters. My case was delivered to my room before I got there so I don't even know who the porter was let alone offer a tip.
"Tipping" can be a complicated matter, because there is no guarantee that it will get to the person you specifically want to reward. Even in the USA, the tip is offered at the cashier, but you may want to be 'tipping' the chef rather than the waiter (i.e. your extra 5% was for the excellent food, not the decent wait service). Then there's the issue of split or pooled tips, etc. etc.
Putting that aside ('cos it's parallel to the argument), in this case, some ideas include a well written letter addressed to the line manager or superior of the person you are commending. If you really want to make an impression, type the letter, print it and send it by snail mail. Make sure it clearly articulates why you are praising the said person and make a point as to why you are even going to the effort to write the letter (this is important, as it needs to be made clear that there is good service and then there is
good service...)
Another idea is to offer a small gift which should be clearly instructed to be delivered to the person of interest. A box of nice chocolates, for example. Kitchy, perhaps, but not everyone gets a box of chocolates every day. Not even loved ones, not even Richard Branson or Andrew Fyfe. Make it a nice box, though, no cheap stuff. Alcohol is probably inappropriate, unless you are on good terms. (There's a fine line unfortunately, as some companies have some odd policies about employees accepting gifts. You may have your gift "rejected" if policy gets in the way - you can only concede and accept these terms...)
For the porter, I'd make a note to ask reception or someone to find out the name of the exact porter that made the delivery to your room. (They would have to "know" anyway just in case you had a complaint rather than a compliment). Then you have the basis for a commendation.
So how many tip at a international hotel?
Only as required by local custom. So far, that's really only translated to the USA for me.
How do you do it? I just find brazenly thrusting a note into someones hand to be dismissive and rude.
Depends on the local custom. In the USA at a hotel, if the porter or staff brings you something you requested, have the tip ready and hand it to them as you exchange it for the items you requested. Don't thrust it in their hands; just hand it over like paying someone.
If you want to tip housekeeping, leave the money on a desk with a note. It's probably a good idea to not leave any money lying around at all if you are having your room cleaned (large amounts may be understood, but little amounts or shrapnel may be misconstrued as a tip, though a good housekeeper shouldn't probably take it at all).
At restaurants, just add the tip at the final payment. By cash, just add it on top. By credit card, there should be a gratuity line you can fill in.
Gratuities are not required to the front-of-house staff when you check out and pay the bill.
Does tipping get you better service or upgrades? Does a guest have their card marked as a "tipper" deserving more attention next visit, or not?
In theory, the answer is no, but it may depend on location and culture.
Just as much as a service person should not expect you to tip (or expect a big tip where tipping is the norm), you should not expect special treatment just because you did so. You are rewarding someone for their excellent service, not buying an extra special service.
Someone who you have tipped may give you some "special treatment", but that is (in theory) only because of the nature of who they are, not because a tip enables them to do this. (Similarly, not tipping should not subject you to some form of abuse, such as having your food spat in). It's all back to how humans interact with each other, really. If someone is nice to you, unless you're made of stone, you can't help but be nice back to them (rather, it would be rude for you not to), and perhaps your conduct changes greatly. It doesn't necessarily mean you're giving them special treatment, nor should it be viewed as a double standard of your integrity or disposition.
The simpler, monetary-free allusion to this observed behavior is the concept of friendship vs acquaintance.