Is there a general consensus of pilot quality within the airline industry? Are there any guys out there that are recognized as being the best? If you were going to build the "perfect" pilot what key attributes and training would they have?
The 'best' is a moving target. Basically, you're only as good as your last flight....
There are many things that are needed to be a pilot (and of course they are in other occupations too). The calmer you are under stress, the better. The ability to immediately move beyond the mistake you just made (fix it and forget it) is a must. I recall students who were almost perfect until they made any mistake, no matter how minor...and then they'd just fall apart.
You must provide leadership. The buck stops with you. End of story.
Some national characteristics come into play. 'Face', and the need to maintain it, is a huge negative. In Australia, our 'tall poppy syndrome', is normally a negative, but in aviation, it serves as the opposite of 'face', and empowers more junior pilots to speak up, and the captains, to listen.
Casual is just at bad as rigid and formal.
Pilots who are naturally very good manipulators, are often chosen as instructors, because their own marks are excellent. Interestingly, they are sometimes appalling instructors, because they actually don't really understand why they are good...the numbers always work for them, but they can't break it down to show others how. Sometimes, the first officers are actually better at the flying than are the captains. But, that's really only one small part of the job...making the whole package work is what the captains are there for.
Passengers judge a flight on some pretty minor parameters. A nice smooth touchdown, is the most easily recognised, but often not high on the pilot's priorities at all. Often that smooth touchdown will actually be the source of a negative debrief in the coughpit, if it has been done on a wet day, or at the expense of the touchdown point.
Off the RAAF pilots' course, there were a number of awards. Best pilot was just that...the highest scores over the entire course for the flights. Dux though, was an amalgamation of the marks for the flights, ground school and leadership. Individual flights were marked solely on the worst of three facets..manipulation, preparation, and airmanship (i.e. manipulate the aircraft perfectly, have studied everything, but make an airmanship error = fail)
The upshot, I guess, is that 'the best' is really an all rounder.