@Lynda2475 some of your posts in this thread genuinely come across as victim blaming.
Let me give you a little more history about my cousin. She was in an abusive relationship. Physical, sexual and financial abuse was part of her day to day life. She worked for the family business, that is to say, HIS family business, so leaving the relationship also meant leaving her income. Not that it was 'hers'. Her salary was paid into 'their' bank account, which only he had control over.
She was strong enough and brave enough to make the decision to leave, but needed some money that wasn't controlled by him to enable her to do it. She got knocked back on several credit card applications but eventually found herself with two low limit cards that she had hidden from him. Her intention was to use one to help her escape and the other for emergency only. They got her free, but into a different kind of financial entrapment.
Comments such as "
There has to be some personal responsibility. Don't spend money you don't have" speak to a level of privilege not afforded to my cousin in her circumstance. 'Advice' like that, to a woman being abused every day, who has no access to her own money, reeks of victim blaming. Whilst your comments resonate with those in control of their finances, who aren't facing difficult financial decisions every day, a disproportionate number of people who are accruing interest are those who have suffered in life's lottery through little to no fault of their own.
Sometimes empathy towards those in more difficult circumstances than you may be facing yourself is not unwarranted.