I am actually trying to find the cheapest most comfortable way to fly mainly so if we had to buy tickets last minute I know who to use. My partner hates paying for anything above Y but also doesn't like being squished. Paying for exit seats is cheaper than paying for PE or J.
I don't mind NZ's 2 seaters down the back of the plane on the 777 or upgrading to PE esp the 789 cabin. They have a one up process you can use.
Trying Scoot biz soon and I suspect that will trump SQ Y and PE for me. I read you can pay to upgrade also for not much. SYD/MEL flights up are day anyway. But I'm flying the red eye just to challenge it.
I think Y on EK was ok which really relates back to the fact the A380s are the way to go if flying Y. About to try QRs A380 upper deck Y in May which I suspect will be a winner.
A330 2-4-2 seating is pretty good for jumping out over people (I'm a window flyer).
And EY I think are great for paying to upgrade the long haul leg for nowhere near the full cost of J. Just fly out of BNE/PER (hopefully less competition for upgrades).
Don't discount sale fares either in J. These can be good. (But yes Y is typically on sale too).
Otherwise you can split your long trip into smaller and lots more legs in Y with stop overs to make it more tolerable but this sometimes is more expensive than Y direct on sale.
Some FFPs like NZ, VA, QR, AA give you upgrades to use each yr so you have to use them or lose them. Other FFP like QF, SQ you use your points. So if they're complimentary they're worth using.
I do fly some J which is mainly work related but the personal is mainly sale related flights (hate paying more than whats required), and aim to fly some F as a treat now and then but via points or upgrades.
I was lucky enough to have the row to myself in Y last November and it honestly felt like I'd won the lottery
. I was very happy to have lie flat in Y. It's probably infrequent but its great if you do receive this. My dad came on a work trip and we were supposed to swap Y and J legs but he buggared up the plan and flew J on one leg only. He is very good at falling asleep sitting up!! I checked in on him a few times and he said he was ok. If he can do it then there isn't any way I should be complaining. Majority of people fly Y and I guess on the odd occasion I share my flying experiences with friends I'd like to be able to talk about Y long haul also. Even though I fly mostly Y domestically and TT east coast.
I believe Y has its place and I'm excited to try and find the best of it.