Well, over the weekend we got the results of the Teen's ADOS testing. Level 2 ASD and a more fine tuned diagnosis of their ADHD as inattentive type (didn't get that detail from the first paed we saw, though I have a two page report with a bunch of numbers).
Not a complete surprise, but I am surprised at level 2, I'd thought maybe level 1.
OT, Speech therapy, and intensive psychology recommended, along with seeking NDIS funding and a carer's payment. We'll see if the latter two are possible. I'm also going to investigate some genomics and gene stuff, after a friend's experiences with that and her ASD kids.
At this stage, trying to figure out how to explain it to family. Each of my parents, and current step-mother coped OK with the info and didn't suggest anything crazy. DLN at school is supportive, but keen to get the finalised report. Not sure if the ILs understand what it is, but we'll probably discuss that tonight. Not sure Mr Katie understands what we're in for - he likened it to his dyslexia diagnosis as a kid, and his Mum got him therapy and they got it sorted/cured. This is a different ball game entirely. :/
(And for those who know the real me or social media me, like the ADHD, this is staying off my social media, unless I decided to start proselytising on social media
Too many people know too little and have unhelpful suggestions, and I'm not open to that right now)