Most polite seat swap request ever

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Just wanted to share a positive experience yesterday.

I was sitting on a SYD-BNE Qantas flight yesterday morning. It had been a long haul: 3 hours DTW-DFW, nearly 6 hours in the airport at Dallas, 17 hours DFW-SYD, 2 hours in Sydney airport, and another connecting flight still to come after SYD-BNE. I was exhausted.

I had chosen a seat somewhat towards the back as the middle seat appeared empty, so I was a little disappointed to see the flight full when I boarded. The woman in the middle seat next to me asked if I'd mind swapping seats with her son who was in the middle seat of the row behind so that he could sit next to her. My initial response was "no" -- I didn't want to lose my aisle seat. She said that she completely understood and she wouldn't normally have asked -- it was only that her son was sick and might vomit again. They'd booked seats together, but their flight arriving from Europe had been late and they'd missed their connecting flight, so they'd been rebooked onto this flight and couldn't be seated together. That put a different complexion on things. I turned around and looked -- the son was not, as I'd expected, a teenager, but a little kid of 7 or 8 who was indeed looking very ill and sorry for himself, seated between two strangers after a very long flight. So of course I agreed to swap after all.

If you have to ask to swap seats, this is the right way to do it: ask without expectation, explain the circumstances, and be prepared to accept either a yes or a no. This made it feel good to say "yes". (Mind you, I was glad to have my hand sanitiser and antibacterial wipes with me after the swap).

Later, the flight attendant came by to check on the kid, thanked me profusely (and unnecessarily) for having swapped, and gave me a goodie pack of a couple of mini bottles of wine and some flight snacks on my way out. The mother, too, thanked me again on the way out.

Given the age of the child, I'm a little surprised Qantas hadn't just arbitrarily moved me or some other passenger and issued new boarding passes before we got on. Yeah, I'd have been grumpy to have been allocated a middle seat, but this is one circumstance that seems to warrant it. Still, since I did say "yes" to the request in the end, I guess this was a good outcome all around: I was still landed with a middle seat, but felt good about it rather than aggrieved.
 
I had a similar experience from Sydney to Adelaide a while ago with a 4 or 5 year old boy not able to sit with his dad and none of the suits would budge. I was a couple or rows back and said I’ll swap. A little later FA comes with a bottle of wine and sincere thanks. One of the suits said you didn’t offer me a bottle of wine. He got a glare from the FA
 
Just wanted to share a positive experience yesterday.

I was sitting on a SYD-BNE Qantas flight yesterday morning. It had been a long haul: 3 hours DTW-DFW, nearly 6 hours in the airport at Dallas, 17 hours DFW-SYD, 2 hours in Sydney airport, and another connecting flight still to come after SYD-BNE. I was exhausted.

I had chosen a seat somewhat towards the back as the middle seat appeared empty, so I was a little disappointed to see the flight full when I boarded. The woman in the middle seat next to me asked if I'd mind swapping seats with her son who was in the middle seat of the row behind so that he could sit next to her. My initial response was "no" -- I didn't want to lose my aisle seat. She said that she completely understood and she wouldn't normally have asked -- it was only that her son was sick and might vomit again. They'd booked seats together, but their flight arriving from Europe had been late and they'd missed their connecting flight, so they'd been rebooked onto this flight and couldn't be seated together. That put a different complexion on things. I turned around and looked -- the son was not, as I'd expected, a teenager, but a little kid of 7 or 8 who was indeed looking very ill and sorry for himself, seated between two strangers after a very long flight. So of course I agreed to swap after all.

If you have to ask to swap seats, this is the right way to do it: ask without expectation, explain the circumstances, and be prepared to accept either a yes or a no. This made it feel good to say "yes". (Mind you, I was glad to have my hand sanitiser and antibacterial wipes with me after the swap).

Later, the flight attendant came by to check on the kid, thanked me profusely (and unnecessarily) for having swapped, and gave me a goodie pack of a couple of mini bottles of wine and some flight snacks on my way out. The mother, too, thanked me again on the way out.

Given the age of the child, I'm a little surprised Qantas hadn't just arbitrarily moved me or some other passenger and issued new boarding passes before we got on. Yeah, I'd have been grumpy to have been allocated a middle seat, but this is one circumstance that seems to warrant it. Still, since I did say "yes" to the request in the end, I guess this was a good outcome all around: I was still landed with a middle seat, but felt good about it rather than aggrieved.

You're an awesome human! :)
 
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Most people don’t realise that helping someone can be such a powerful force. Back in the days when I was healthy and flying for work I had to fly in and out of MCY as that is where I live. Whether flying QF or VA I always selected either of the last 2 rows as they always had boarding from front and rear so I could always be one of the first on or off.
However it was always where they put the unaccompanied kids or parents with infants. I have always been a hit with most kids so I always enjoyed it. One of the first times there was a young mother with her newborn in the window seat and 2 year old boy in the middle seat. He was playing up as he was getting no attention. So I started reading from the VA magazine. Fortunately they had an article on helicopters so I had his attention the whole flight.
His mother was so thankful and every FA came to see me and also thanked me. I got off that plane feeling 12 feet tall.
From then on both QF and VA would seat me with the kids until the woke brigade decided all men were predators so that all ended. But I miss that happy feeling.

So good on you. I guess it still feels good.
 
From then on both QF and VA would seat me with the kids until the woke brigade decided all men were predators so that all ended. But I miss that happy feeling.
You've got the meaning of woke all wrong drron. Doing what you did is what woke actually means - having a social concience, being aware. The loony fundamentalist/pentecostal religious right/Fox News/Murdoch media has turned the word into something else and it's those people who would point the finger at you reading to a boy on a plane and accuse you of being a predator (and they are ironically too often the perpetrators of said predation).

So good on you Ron for being kind (and woke), and also to you as well significance.
 
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