General Parenting Discussion

[GarrettM]

So...
It's a big year for me. Baby number 2 due in a few weeks, and a significant birthday milestone in August.

My midlife crisis has two components: the strong urge to buy an expensive new guitar, and my great wish to go to the Olympics next year. I'm over reaching I know, but a man's gotta have dreams.

 

[love_the_life]

So...
It's a big year for me. Baby number 2 due in a few weeks, and a significant birthday milestone in August.

My midlife crisis has two components: the strong urge to buy an expensive new guitar, and my great wish to go to the Olympics next year. I'm over reaching I know, but a man's gotta have dreams.

That baby time has come around really quickly! MrsGM and Blackcat must be about the same timing?
You won't have time for a mid-life crisis.

 

[GarrettM]

That baby time has come around really quickly!

Tell that to the missus. She had enough quite some ago. People have been telling her "oh you must be due any day!" since before Christmas. She is huge, sore, and exhausted. The kid is measuring way bigger than dates would suggest. We are nervous about the birth, after the trauma of the first one.

 

[GarrettM]

Love the neck ties

Did you all use the same bowl for your hair?

 

[love_the_life]

Tell that to the missus. She had enough quite some ago. People have been telling her "oh you must be due any day!" since before Christmas. She is huge, sore, and exhausted. The kid is measuring way bigger than dates would suggest. We are nervous about the birth, after the trauma of the first one.

I can imagine that she's had enough by now. Those last few weeks can be awful.
A friend's daughter had twins last year - over 6 pounds each. By the end she almost couldn't move. At least hers were caesar though so she knew the date.

 

[GarrettM]

I can imagine that she's had enough by now. Those last few weeks can be awful.
A friend's daughter had twins last year - over 6 pounds each. By the end she almost couldn't move. At least hers were caesar though so she knew the date.

Pretty sure we'll be booking in a Caesar. Will decide after speaking to the hospital next week.

 

[blackcat20]

Tell that to the missus. She had enough quite some ago. People have been telling her "oh you must be due any day!" since before Christmas. She is huge, sore, and exhausted. The kid is measuring way bigger than dates would suggest. We are nervous about the birth, after the trauma of the first one.

She has my sympathies. Sore and tired here too, though measuring a few weeks behind. But everyone keeps saying ‘oh it’s gone so fast’. For them maybe!

 

[Denali]

What does that mean, measuring behind. Some bubs are just small and from your wedding photos, you were small yourself or Tom is a giant

 

[blackcat20]

What does that mean, measuring behind. Some bubs are just small and from your wedding photos, you were small yourself or Tom is a giant

Baby is a few weeks smaller than expected. It’s not a bad thing as long as it doesn’t stop growing.
I’m not particularly small...

 

[Denali]

Baby is a few weeks smaller than expected. It’s not a bad thing as long as it doesn’t stop growing.
I’m not particularly small...

Well I'm 6ft and fat so everyone is small in my eyes

My brothers son was like 000 when he was born, had to buy clothing as it was unexpected. I'm sure bub is fine, she's going to be petite. Yep, I'm saying she at this stage

 

[Quickstatus]

Baby is a few weeks smaller than expected. It’s not a bad thing as long as it doesn’t stop growing.
I’m not particularly small...

When they arrived the twins were 2.4kg
Now they are 195cm

 

[JohnK]

nothing wrong with being soft - I was as well, as long as you are consistent and teaching her boundaries slowly,

All in good time. She's still a baby and she's unique and funny. Didn't think it was possible for someone to bring so much joy to 2 old people.

Oh and she loves being naughty. Twice today in the city she sat down on the footpath when she didn't get her way.

 

[Flying mermaid]

All in good time. She's still a baby and she's unique and funny. Didn't think it was possible for someone to bring so much joy to 2 old people.

Oh and she loves being naughty. Twice today in the city she sat down on the footpath when she didn't get her way.

very exhausting isn’t it and so tempting to give in, but it’s a slippery slide.

 

[JohnK]

very exhausting isn’t it and so tempting to give in, but it’s a slippery slide.

Never give in. Just let her have her way.

Walking on Queen St today and she kicked off one of her shoes. Then she wanted mum to take other shoe off. And she started walking. An older couple sitting down were observing. "What can you say or do"? The man said "nothing". Correct. Just follow her and make she doesn't get in trouble along the way.

Isn't that what parents are supposed to do?

 

[Flying mermaid]

Never give in. Just let her have her way.

Walking on Queen St today and she kicked off one of her shoes. Then she wanted mum to take other shoe off. And she started walking. An older couple sitting down were observing. "What can you say or do"? The man said "nothing". Correct. Just follow her and make she doesn't get in trouble along the way.

Isn't that what parents are supposed to do?

I have to admit it’s not what I would have done, but then every parent needs to make their own decisions. I probably fought too many battles over unimportant things like shoes. I think consistency is the key - if you say no she can’t take off her shoes, then you have to stick to it. As I said there are more important battles to win than keeping on a pair of shoes, as long as she is safe and doesn’t hurt herself.

 

[Hvr]

Oh and she loves being naughty.

So she takes after her father.

 

[blackcat20]

Apparently Miss Bella has been sleeping in the bassinet of the new pram How a geriatric cat got in there is a bit of a mystery....

 

[Katie]

Never give in. Just let her have her way.

Walking on Queen St today and she kicked off one of her shoes. Then she wanted mum to take other shoe off. And she started walking. An older couple sitting down were observing. "What can you say or do"? The man said "nothing". Correct. Just follow her and make she doesn't get in trouble along the way.

Isn't that what parents are supposed to do?

I remember the story of a friend who used to live in Utah. It's winter, she needs to go to the grocery store, and take youngest (of four) child with her. Youngest child is about 2 years old, and will not wear a coat or vaguely appropriate winter gear. So, she goes in whatever she's in. Mum walks into the supermarket with under-dressed 2 yo in tow. And older gent sees them walking in; mother steels herself for the judgemental glare of her parenting skills. But the older gent just says something like "You can't get them to do it sometimes" and rather than being judgemental, was completely understanding that there are times parents choose their battles. And even winter clothing in mid-winter Utah might not be a battle you want to fight (but hope the kid learns from the experience).

 

[JohnK]

So she takes after her father.

In more ways than I would have wanted.

Didn't sleep until 4:00am this morning and woke up 11:30am. Her dad's traits exactly.

 

[mrsterryn]

I don't offer advice to my son and DIL. I want to stay on pleasant terms and be invited to visit
Being the paternal parent does usually mean less involvement that the maternal side
As an aside once at a huge shopping mall and a young girl was outside screaming and screaming as she hadn't got her own way. She would have perhaps been two or three. Her poor mother asked her in a Very unhappy voice " are you finished yet" this small girl stopped, screwed up her face thinking and answered most politely No....And returned to screaming and kicking.
I did feel for the parents but my husband and I got into our car and laughed and laughed