Bertee,
It took me a long time to realise what you are now facing. I went through a number of years of earning vast amounts of FF points but going nowhere in status.
I have never flown J or F in my life yet. I have only been into the lounge asmall handful of times and 80% of my travel is on my own dime. However I do travel quite a lot, previously for my own business and education, now juits to see my family in Australia.
I found out the hard way that to get status in the FF program required flying lots and on tickets that gave value to the airline. FF points don't entitle you to anything as they are really nothing moe than bonus currency, especially if earned outside of flying. The status is there to beneifit those that spend large quantities of their time sitting in the airline's planes. And particulalry to those who spend more for the flexibilty of their tickets. If you are going to save your dollars and fly discount Y so be it. but the less you spend on the airline the less they feel they need to spend on you.
I personally like to have some status and have taken to purchasing more flexible fares.. they are still economy and I sit in the same seat as everyone else, but I appreciate the ability to change flights as required by me or the airline, and appreciate that I can get exit row seats allocated or access to the lounges. You have to decide what is worth more to you.. better flying conditions regardless of Class of service, ie preferential boarding, a good deal of flexibility if you meeting runs late or you get to the airport early and lounge access- or- saving as much money as you can. there is also the trade off here in which if I was spending 3 out of 4 weeks on a plane day after day, I would happily forgo a bonus to get just alittle more comfort when travelling constantly, and that will help your bottom line because you or your employee is feeling better at the end of the trip.
I learnt the hard way and now I have made status in a program thanks to the help of those guys and girls here who have blazed those trails before me. Take your time, relax and read the things these people have posted and you will learn that getting status isn't that difficult and that with their advice you may also save some money even in situations you never thought possible.