I'm with others... there is no reason to ban children from any cabin. Everyone understands if a child cries... but the frustrating part is when a parent seems oblivious to it and appears to do nothing to control the situation.
I was on a qantas domestic flight last year with a family and the 7-10 year old (somewhere in there) was telling the cabin about daddy's tail when he is in the bathroom. (her words, not mine)
the mother just laughed. I spat out my drink. It was up to another passenger (a business woman) to tell the girl that perhaps her language was not appropriate for an airplane.
Seems pretty harmless to me. I'd have laughed along with her, personally.
As for split cabins... why would a family want to split up on a flight anyway?
I would have thought that was pretty obvious - cost. 2x Business (or even 2x Premium economy) + 2x Economy is a LOT cheaper than 4x Business.
I don't have children, but since I like to travel this is a question I have contemplated myself a few times in case I ever do.
Since I'm tall and broad, economy seats are physically quite uncomfortable for me on long-haul flights, on top of which I usually like to do some work while I'm flying, and fitting a laptop in a usable fashion onto an economy table is all but impossible. So when we fly we are happy to spring for Prem Econ (with a DONE4 every few years). I really don't care at all about "cabin service" - heck, I'd be OK getting the economy meal - all I care about is a bigger seat and, particularly, more legroom.
Obviously these physical size issues in economy are not a problem for a child. So spending twice as much for Y+ (or four times as much for J) is a complete waste of money from that perspective. Putting the kid(s) down the back as unaccompanied minors is something I'm confident I'd be happy to do.
Fundamentally my argument would be this: If Unaccompanied Minors are OK in principle, then whether or not their parents are also on the plane is irrelevant.
(I do agree that children with parents in another cabin should be considered unaccompanied minors (with whatever conditions that might entail), however.)