Strong personality with status to match - cringe worthy or so it would seem

[Claire Lee]

without wanting to sound like a pretentious cough, I am quite a powerful person. I don't mean this as I hold power, I mean this as I am a polarizing person who attracts people to me in most private functions yet I am a formidable opponent in any court room who can bring a grown man to tears and at work I see the inverse or opposite of the attraction.

I also find it extraordinary hard to hold down any serious conversation with the opposite sex once they realise what I do, how much I travel, the hotel chains I stay in and of course what I drive (a 1998 Toyota Corolla - I think they expect more!)

Do others find a similar reaction from people once they get to meet you and find out a little about you or is it the opposite and they want to know you more once they find out you travel a lot?

On a side note, I met a potential partner at a conference and our brief but intense relationship lasted right up till they asked me if I could organise a flight in one of the company planes to you know... join the club...

You will need to know me a lot better to find out the answer to that one

 

[Robert K]

darling, boys only want one thing. and it aint a conversation

 

[beardoc]

Welcome to AFF, Claire Lee!

You do sound like a woman of many talents, and it does sound like you have success, and that's admirable. I'm intrigued a little by your comment that you can bring a grown man to tears. Do you do this for any particular reason?

I'm not usually particularly put off by people that are far more successful than me. Hell, there are many people around these forums that are hugely successful, and I'm very much happy for them, as I am for you. For me, your success isn't a reason to shy away from you. I don't quite understand why it would be the case. Certainly it wouldn't stop me.

 

[Sojourner]

Hi Claire, I don't get what you mean in your first paragraph where you talk about how 'powerful' you are, and how at work you "see the inverse or opposite of the attraction". Are you saying you don't find people like yourself attractive, but rather people who are the opposite in terms of personality to you attractive?

With regard to your mention of constant travel being a turn off, I think you might've just answered your own question.

It may just be the case that many people don't want to get into a relationship with someone who is constantly out of town most of the time.

I know a lot of my friends feel that long distance relationships or relationships with people are away constantly for extensive periods a deal breaker

Certainly your profile description of you moving between apartments across three different cities suggests that it is likely to be the case.

 

[Sprucegoose]

Claire,

Let others do the judging. They will regardless.

What is the purpose of your thread, and how is it travel related apart from you refusing to ride at heights?

 

[samh004]

Are you a member of the club?

 

[medhead]

Not sure the question you're asking. But I've always seen highly successful people as overachievers. I also don't think there is anything particularly special about such overachievers besides being driven by strange things (strange to me). I'm confident to say I, and most people, could do the same if I could be bothered reading and taking in the information, and such. Like the mid-semester maths examine I once did extremely poorly in, yet I knew it would have been easy if I'd bothered actually learning anything. Well unless you do modern algebra - I never could handle that rubbish. Still as a lawyer, not likely.

Anyway, I'd be more than happy to challenge you to a drinking competition just to measure your power - lawyers are supposed to be good at driving.

In answer to your other question; I good friend once told me that I deliberate push people away when I first meet them. They reasoned that if they came back it was my way of knowing if they were worth having as friends. Doesn't sound like you're doing that sort of thing.

 

[mono88]

I have been cringed.

 

[Mal]

I have met people with a powerful facade which is removed as quickly as makeup is at night.
Outward persona is something that many people fake, you actually need to spend time with them to see the bits they are hiding.

Regarding travel, a lot of people are jealous and/or confused regarding my travel. All of it is self funded at the moment and people can't work out how I do it and why. Always fun to explain. Usually I omit parts of the story to make it all sound plausible!

 

[samh004]

Anyway, I'd be more than happy to challenge you to a drinking competition just to measure your power

Sounds like a great idea for a future AFF event

 

[JohnK]

I am a shy person so do not have to worry too much about interactions with others.

The less people know about me the better.

 

[Happy Trails]

darling, boys only want one thing. and it aint a conversation

Oh, that's so not true.
There's also the washing and ironing and of course I want my dinner ready on the table when I get home.

 

[ashleyn]

without wanting to sound like a pretentious cough, I am quite a powerful person. I don't mean this as I hold power, I mean this as I am a polarizing person who attracts people to me in most private functions yet I am a formidable opponent in any court room who can bring a grown man to tears and at work I see the inverse or opposite of the attraction.

I also find it extraordinary hard to hold down any serious conversation with the opposite sex once they realise what I do, how much I travel, the hotel chains I stay in and of course what I drive (a 1998 Toyota Corolla - I think they expect more!)

Do others find a similar reaction from people once they get to meet you and find out a little about you or is it the opposite and they want to know you more once they find out you travel a lot?

On a side note, I met a potential partner at a conference and our brief but intense relationship lasted right up till they asked me if I could organise a flight in one of the company planes to you know... join the club...

You will need to know me a lot better to find out the answer to that one

Is this post for real ? Surely a wind up.

 

[opusman]

Is this post for real ? Surely a wind up.

"Claire Lee" a troll

 

[kpc]

"Claire Lee" a troll

Agree. I reckon Claire Lee is not female, nor the real name of the poster:shock:

 

[PLC]

Don't worry Claire Lee, I understand exactly what you are saying. I have been known to bring both men and women to tears. It all started with my mum and dad and it went downhill from there.

See you in court.

 

[erkpod]

I'd love to find someone who loves travel as much as I do. I do most of my travel solo & doing that has advantages & disadvantages. I don't need to see/talk to someone every day to be in a relationship with them. In fact, I love it when someone has a life outside of a relationship instead of making the relationship their life.

 

[Awesom Andy]

I also find it extraordinary hard to hold down any serious conversation with the opposite sex once they realise what I do, how much I travel, the hotel chains I stay in and of course what I drive (a 1998 Toyota Corolla - I think they expect more!)

Funny enough, that is exactly my experience as well - except for the 1998 Corolla... the white good on wheels that I have access to are slightly newer.

 

[cove]

I do hope we can get you working on getting into First Class cabins on points so you won't be deemed eligible for Chairman's Lounge. It is a game we play on AFF and no one really wins because the plane still goes to the same place regardless of whether you are in First or Coach.
We have a household of Toyota made cars so you are not an odd one there.
Now when are they serving the Krug and caviar?

 

[puppysparkes]

Hi Claire, I did take the time to read your intro and what a cracker uni name Regardless of who you meet you'll get judged by their standards.
Sounds like you need to modify your social and or the amount of work related functions you attend. Try an AFF function perhaps??

This thread is now about Corollas. I used to drive my sisters 4 speed manual. Great car until you had 4 lads in it and then it would take forever to get up to speed.