It is so easy to look at a thread in isolation. What a lot of these posts who comment about the tone of some of the responses fail to address is the pattern of posts from the OP, and not just in relation to this thread here.
Sorry but this is one area that QF is consistent, membership anniversary date is a constant.
The 80k offer is the standard offer from QF for those who have not retained gold.
As mentioned previously, QFF should only change the name on a QFF membership when provided with proof of the change
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A sale fare shouldn't preclude you from upgrading the domestic leg, there must be another reason as to why it isn't allowing you to submit the upgrade request online.