Only just saw this thread via the front page...
Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through this
pepeto! What a shocking, terrible experience.
For comparison, I flew a similar itinerary back in May and got a better result
on separate tickets: SYD-BNE on VA + BNE-DOH-ATH on QR
I had to book it that way as the QR ticket was paid J outbound, Qcredits return, and it was impossible to ticket at a non-absurd price. I tossed up whether I should book a QF connection so at least it was same alliance. Ultimately I figured my chances were better if there were IRROPS even on a separate VA ticket, compared to a tight QF connection, since as QF gold it'd take me hours to even talk to somebody.
Turns out it was all true, and I needed it. I'd already allowed a longer connection, but by lunchtime I noticed that the plane that was scheduled to run my SYD-BNE was running late in HBA, and there would undoubtedly be flow-on delays. (It ended up being almost 4 hours late and we 100% would've misconnected.)
Luckily VA looked after my partner and I flawlessly. Called VA twice that afternoon, got through in ~10 min each time. They were happy to move us to earlier flights, even before they formally re-timed our booked flight. Our choice of time, either move now or keep checking in the afternoon and call back to move later (they checked there were enough Y seats later in the day to make this possible).
Yes, we were both platinum, but the words "Fly Ahead" never even came up. The moment I mentioned we had an international connection the follow ups questions were "What time?" and "Can I check you are able to make it to the airport in time for an earlier departure?".
A slight complication was that we'd upgraded from Y to J on SYD-BNE and there was no 2x availability in J on a single flight that afternoon, but no worries, they could do any of split the PNR and put us on two flights following each other, one person in each cabin, or just refund both upgrades and fly together in Y (what I chose in the end). Not that I would've expected anything less than genuinely helpful customer service from VA!
I'm utterly astounded that Qantas didn't do more to ensure so many connecting passengers didn't miss their flight in the first place, as much as I'm outraged to hear about the total lack of service recovery.
Can I just say, I'm really looking forward to flying VA+QR again in the future (one one ticket with the new alliance?)... now what to do with all my QF points hmmm.