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Hi All,
I'm a little bit late to this party, but the QF lounge tipping scam is starting to make its way into some of the blogosphere here.
I'll admit that tipping is a tough subject, even for native born Americans, so you will rarely find much consensus amongst Americans about who to tip and when. (If you want to save yourself the headache, tip everybody you see. Me, I'll take the headache and spend less money.)
The only time tipping in the US is obligatory is when you're dealing with staff who are paid the "tipped minimum wage." This wage is about $2.16 an hour. It's peanuts, and nobody anywhere can survive off of that. While it is not law that you must tip those employees, not tipping them is akin to legalized theft. (Even if it's busy and they're making tips left and right, it's really, really not appropriate to skip out on a tip.)
As a visitor to the USA (or any country) how am I supposed to know who gets the mega minimum wage like this, vs the minimum wage, vs some other sort of wage (eg I think it's Seattle or Washington State or someplace that is trying to bringing in a $15 wage? something like that IIRC).
I mean seriously while I could take an educated guess at who may be earning $2.13 an hour, I don't really KNOW and frankly I shouldn't need to IMHO.
And as you write
Culturally, the discussion of personal finances is very taboo. I have no idea what my coworkers make, and heck, I have no idea what my own brother makes. So any suggestion of a tip from a service worker is beyond rude.
So nobody talks about what people earn (which is fair enough, same here) yet somehow we're supposed to know who does and doesn't earn what?
I'm there to visit or do business, not do an analysis of the local labor market.
I'm not trying to be rude, but I do get a bit fed up with this expectation that we're supposed to "get it" and do the right thing. I try to do the right thing (as in "when in Rome") but there are limits. Should I feel bad because I don't know if the janitor or the waiter or the bellboy or the valet earns what? I try and tip as I feel appropriate and, as you write, even many local Americans disagree on the practice.
I just don't want to feel like i'm not being aware or sensitive to the situation, but I also don't want to be an idiot to be taken advantage of.
And we're focusing on the USA.. while most other countries don't have a tipping culture(that I'm aware of).. then what other places might be? Or should I think about what someone is earning? I don't know - I can see both sides.
I can't help thinking of a visit to Russia I made 20 years ago this year. When I was there there was huge economic upheaval and MANY people had not been paid for months, or paid in goods (useless if you worked in a glass factory, possibly better if you were in a food cannery) but it was a dire situation for many. I think I had changed $100 into Rubles for 2 weeks worth, and literally what I had in my pocket probably would have been enough for a family for 6 months yet wherever I went, people were so polite and eager to help and there was NO hint of putting out the hand or asking for money despite, in some cases, a really obvious need.
Very different cultures.