I also don't see why lack of suites are a problem. You can't really expect to be given a suite being new to a hotel when they have so many loyal/diamond members staying.
Also, they are allowed to allocate rooms to sell after using their Diamond upgrade quota. At a high occupancy hotel such as this where people are willing to splash large amounts of cash, they are practically giving up $500+ of revenue if they choose to upgrade you for 4 nights. They also are not obliged to upgrade you anything above one category.
This hotel is actually honest - not in the sense that what the FD staff tell you is true, but that it assigns preupgrades to members where they can, then keep a few to sell. Keep in mind it is completely your choice whether you want to stay for $400+. So choosing to pay that much in a city with 100 decent hotels and then complaining you paid that much, is a bit silly. This hotel is also known to upgrade repeat stayers, which is completely reasonable! If there are 2 Diamonds, and one has stayed 20 times vs first timer, who do you think they should give the upgrade?
Valid complaint is lack of wine in room upgrade, however I believe this was doubled up for you to a full bottle.
You can not expect late checkout (3pm+) if occupancy is always high at this hotel. The longer you take to checkout, the longer someone else will have to wait to check in. 2pm is already decent at this location.
Some might see accidental anniversary chocolates as a negative, I think they are a positive
Although I can see how your experience would be marred as it would make it seem like you received the wrong room.
If you want to have an enjoyable experience
- Don't pay an amount you think is a rip off, and expect a suite upgrade. No hotel is obliged to upgrade you anything above one category.
- Enjoy the free breakfast buffet (higher quality than most breakfast imo even with cost cutting) as a Diamond
- Enjoy the executive lounge (better than a lot I've tried overseas even in APAC)
- Understand the staff lie because they have to, to survive on their job. They too have to meet performance quotas and can't just give out suite upgrades to everyone. Therefore they soften the blow with things like 'normally we would upgrade you but none are available'. You can either choose to DYKWIA and show them the availability chart etc. or realise that this hotel is a business. If they were honest and said 'we'd rather sell the suite and make $1000', or 'you aren't valued as much as other loyal guests', people would get annoyed very quickly.
- Understand that this hotel upgrades regulars, because if you have to choose between upgrading a regular and upgrading a new guest, you'd choose the regular.
- Don't pay a rate you think is a rip off, because you have 100 other hotels to choose from. If you are staying because of elite status, then its not a rip off, because you chose the benefits (breakfast, lounge etc.) over the other hotels, probably because you valued what you were getting over the price premium.
You are in the right to submit a stay feedback/complaint and say that the room was downgraded and anniversary chocolates provided accidentally, and suite was available.
However realise - you were still provided with a full bottle of wine, anniversary chocolates were yours complimentary, and that the hotel is in their right to not upgrade you above one category and is allowed to sell that suite.
I might be one of the only people who doesn't mind that the staff lie, but I understand why they do it. Personally, I'm going to keep coming back to this hotel because the value proposition as a Diamond surpasses that of other hotels in the vicinity, for me personally. If a staff member tells me suites are booked out, I'm not going to DYKWIA and tell them they are available. I just accept that they don't want to upgrade me. If I don't enjoy that, there are 100s of other hotels who want my business.