And we know life doesn't pick and select who gets to hang around and who doesn't. And many babies, young children and young adults have succumbed to the wicked disease so it's not about deservedness or being nice or nasty. Sometimes cough just happens.
Prolly not going to help your relationship with the soon to be fiancé to even go there.![]()
At least I feel bad about the thought. There was a time when I wouldn't have. She is not a nice person, selfish beyond belief and that includes jealousy against her children and turning what would have been a normal human into basically an invalid so that she wouldn't be lonely when she retired (it is her youngest son). She doesn't wish them success. My dad once thanked the +1 for helping him out with something by saying "good work today, thanks, saved me a lot of time". He came running over to me and gave me a hug because no one had ever given him support or appreciation before, he didn't know what to do with that… gratitude.
Anyway, I know its not a controllable thing, and I actually wouldn't wish his mum sick, I'd prefer to be sick I can deal with it, watching someone else is hard.
I was 10 when my first friend died, at school, in front of me. That affected me, but its not about me, she had a family, and all those bad people out there, they still have family too (well not all but most) and people who love them and probably think they are wonderful as well. I am definitely not saying one life is more than another, and so much is deja vu for me now so I guess it was meant to happen like this.